This week we commemorate the destruction of the Holy Temple in Jerusalem on the 9th of Av. There are many customs and commentaries on the events that led to this devastation. We also remember the many other tragedies that befell the Jewish people on or around this date – sad times for Am Israel. As we reflect on these events, it can be hard to imagine what it must have been like at the time of the First and Second Temples: What did we lose? What can we do today to make up for that loss?
Opening our Hearts
Jerusalem was once considered the center of the world, the Temple was the center of Jerusalem and Jewish life. God commands in Shemot, “You shall build me a sanctuary, and I will dwell in them” (25:8). Many commentators ask why “them” and not “I will dwell in it”? We learn here that God wanted to dwell not only in the Holy Temple but also in the hearts and homes of all of us.
The temple in Jerusalem is inaccessible today, but our hearts and homes are accessible spaces that are in our power to change. We can take steps to create a strong, positive environment. A divine dwelling that allows for growth and inspiration.
Jewish homes are more than just physical residences, they’re the heart of Jewish life. This place where traditions, values, and family are interwoven creates a unique and meaningful atmosphere. It’s here that we seek comfort, security, and love, for this is the core of our lives. A strong and positive home environment can have a profound impact on our well-being and promote happiness and harmony among family members. Here are some important tips to help you create a sanctuary that radiates positivity and joy.
Communicate Openly
The cornerstone of a strong home environment lies in open communication among family members. Encourage honest and respectful discussions, where everyone’s opinions are valued. Create an atmosphere where children feel comfortable sharing their thoughts and parents can express their emotions without judgment. Active listening is vital in fostering strong bonds and resolving conflicts amicably.
Nurture Love
A home filled with love and empathy thrives. Show affection, appreciation, and support to your family members regularly. Small gestures like hugs, kind words, and acts of service can help make everyone feel cherished and valued. Teach children the importance of empathy and understanding by setting positive examples and encouraging them to be kind and considerate.
Establish Boundaries
Setting clear boundaries is crucial to maintaining harmony within a home. Boundaries provide a sense of structure and security for all family members. Make sure everyone is aware of the household rules and the consequences of breaching them. This step may be a challenge with small children. Even if they are having a hard time understanding the concept of boundaries make sure they know they exist.
Encourage Growth
A positive home environment encourages personal growth and self-improvement. Support each family member’s passions, hobbies, and interests. Offer encouragement and celebrate achievements, no matter how big or small. A nurturing home environment inspires everyone to be the best version of themselves.
Incorporate Traditions
Traditions foster a sense of togetherness and create lasting memories. Try a Shabbat dinner together, or a holiday gathering, it may even be a weekly game night. These rituals strengthen the bond between family members and create lasting memories. Encourage everyone to be involved in the planning process, allowing them to add their unique twist.
Practice Gratitude
Gratitude is a powerful force that can transform a home. Encourage a habit of expressing gratitude daily. This can be done through a family gratitude journal, sharing thankful thoughts during dinner, or simply taking a moment to appreciate each other’s efforts. Gratitude fosters a positive outlook and helps family members focus on the blessings in their lives.
Prioritize Quality Time
In the fast-paced modern world, quality time with family is often neglected. Make a conscious effort to spend time together without distractions. Plan regular family outings, game nights, or even simple dinners together. These moments of togetherness build a strong emotional connection and create cherished memories.
Stay Organized
A cluttered and chaotic home can lead to stress and tension. Keep the living space clean, organized, and welcoming. Involve all family members in tidying up and maintaining the home. A tidy home fosters a clear mind and a sense of pride in one’s surroundings.
Jewish homes remain the bedrock of Jewish identity, ensuring that our culture endures for generations to come. Creating a strong and positive Jewish home environment requires conscious effort and commitment from every family member. By cultivating these positive qualities, we can build a sanctuary that nurtures happiness, harmony, and a sense of belonging. Remember that a positive home environment is not about perfection but about the collective journey of growth and support. Whether in the ancient alleyways of Jerusalem or the bustling streets of New York, the Jewish home remains a sanctuary, a place where the heart of Judaism beats passionately and warmly.
Photo credit: Brett Sayles
